The Top 10 Ways to Get What You Want Out of Life!

I have spent the last 20 years researching and working in a field that helps people live their dreams. By assisting people with creating exciting goals, reducing distractions and aligning beliefs and values, I ultimately help them get to the most important part—achieving their goals.

For my clients the most significant aha! moments often occur when they realize why they have been unable to meet the goals they set out for themselves year after year. The primary reason is that their goals are out of sync with their personal or professional values and beliefs. Understanding this can serve as a catalyst for approaching your personal or professional life planning in a different way—a way that will dramatically increase your success rate.

If your goals often get away from you, then the following 10 steps will be very helpful. This list is based upon challenges my clients have faced and learned from over the years. I know it works, and I am only too happy to share it with you.

The Top 10 Ways to Get What You Want Out of Life!

(a.k.a. 10 Key Considerations for Making Plans and Goals)

  1. Make sure your goals are actually yours. They cannot come from other people’s expectations or desires.
  2. Stay out of the past. The present and the future are very important, and the past has already happened. As they say, “It is a new day.”
  3. Make sure you keep your ideal life clearly in your mind. You need to keep a close comparison of the ideal and your daily life. This is the stuff that keeps you on track.
  4. Understand clearly what makes you happy.
  5. Do you know where you want to go in life? This is your life plan. It is really important to have a life plan that resonates deeply with you.
  6. Make sure you live your life to make your personal or professional plan come to life.
  7. Are your goals in alignment with your values? Are you clear about what your values are?  You need to revisit them regularly to make sure you are moving in the direction you really want.
  8. Examine your beliefs. Your thoughts become your beliefs. Your beliefs become your behaviour. Your behaviour becomes your actions. Your actions become your life. How about those beliefs? Do you have any that aren’t working for you now? Are they getting in the way of your success?
  9. Never, never limit your potential. There is very little you can’t do, and even that is debatable. It’s all about alignment.
  10. Keep your negative thoughts, limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviours under control.

After reading this list, what are you going to do differently?

What is your first step, and when are you going to have that completed by?

These action questions should follow any new plans you decide on. You will find the whole process much more invigorating once you have adopted the 10 Key Considerations to Making Plans and Goals.

Please share your success stories about how these simple but effective tools have moved you from frustration to action.

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About Judy: Judy Mackenzie, MBA, CHRP, CEC PCC, owns and operates TEVO Consulting Inc. (www.tevosmallbiz.com), providing services and guidance to small and medium businesses. TEVO’s mission is to assist companies in reaching their strategic goals by developing leadership and people management systems that allow employees to be at their best. Judy believes engaged employees are fundamental to business success, and she designs support and management systems to help people and companies achieve their full potential.



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Are You Asking the Right Questions?

As Joseph S. Edwards said, “Great results begin with great questions.”

Do good managers do the work for their staff, or do they lead them to creatively think through dilemmas so that they develop the right skills to problem solve in the future?

I have written about managerial courage and learning agility as part of a winning formula. The third part of that formula is the ability to ask good questions to get great results.

There are many reasons why people don’t want to ask questions. These include…

  • The fear of looking foolish
  • The fear that the manager will think less of him or her
  • An unwillingness to work through the tough stuff
  • Laziness (sad, but true)
  • Being particularly good at getting their manager to do their job

What do you normally do when a staff member or colleague comes to you and says, “I don’t know how to do this. I need your help.”? Below are a number of questions that will help you determine the appropriate response.

  • What are they really asking?
  • How do you know what kind of effort or thinking they have used to get to this point?
  • Do they just want you to do their work?
  • Are they afraid of failing?
  • In your corporate culture, is it dangerous for your staff to make mistakes?

Regardless of the reason, it is always a good time to start asking good questions.

If you teach your staff how to ask good questions by modeling expected behaviour, you will find that their problem-solving capabilities soar. Once these skills have been integrated into your culture, the impact is phenomenal. 

There are two different ways you can ask questions, with completely different results. One way provokes pessimism, stress, anger and resentment; the other encourages problem solving, learning, optimism and collaboration.

Here are some quick tips for avoiding negative questions and for posing constructive ones.

  • Never start a question with “Why?” This has a strong judgmental overtone, and staff members will often respond by justifying their actions rather than thinking through the process. One alternative is to ask, “Can you explain your thought process in this situation?”
  • Keep any form of blame out of your question, i.e., “Whose fault is this?” Instead, try asking, “What are the facts as we know them?” or “What are our next steps, and who should be doing them?” These are action questions that will encourage staff members to look for remedies rather than opt for CYA (Cover Your Behind) behaviour that is merely a giant waste of time.

There will still be times when staff members do things that defy logic and drive you crazy; however, allowing those feelings to surface will not benefit anyone. During such times it is best to give yourself a much-needed break and tell the staff member to come to your office in 20 minutes to discuss the next steps. This will give you a cooling down time and allow you to plan questions for holding the person accountable in a way that is productive.

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When has asking the right question(s) made a big difference for you? Please share your stories below.

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Are You Satisfied with How Your Employees Are Performing?

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It’s performance management time and everyone is just thrilled to be part of the process. People love to get feedback, and managers are just itching to have those constructive feedback discussions with their fully engaged employees…

Not so much, I get it. For the past several years I have worked with companies both large and small to deal with this very issue, and believe it or not, we are making some serious inroads into this area without a great deal of kicking and screaming in the process.

What most managers and employees loathe about performance management is the subjective nature of the process, and yes, there will always be some of that. However, the bulk of the process should be very clear and easy if you are working within an accountability and responsibility framework. This process involves a cascading concept that takes the executive’s accountability and breaks that down, distributing it among the different departments and the managers within those departments. Then those managers cascade their responsibilities down to the people who do the operational and tactical work.

Requirements for a Successful Accountability and Responsibility Framework

What makes this system work?

  1. The relevancy of the document you produce. Everyone is interested in this framework, since its structure and “moving parts” support the vision at the top.
  2. Clarity about departmental and individual accountabilities. Who does what, and what can I count on you for?
  3. The performance management system is based upon this accountability and responsibility matrix, and you are working with real behavioural indicators to prove success. This helps keep the subjective part to a minimum.
  4. All parties know what is required and what is being managed.
  5. Employee engagement roars ahead as everyone is feeling in the loop and clear on what is required. (Success breeds success.)
  6. Tough conversations are replaced with brief coaching sessions.

And before you know it your productivity is up, employees are happy, and managers are less crazed!

Although I have made this sound simple, it is in fact a very manageable process to undergo. Each company I have worked with actually takes this system and applies it to job descriptions, performance management and pay-for-performance programming.

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Have these tips motivated you to set some goals? Do you have any goal-setting success stories that you’d like to share? Please speak your mind below.

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About Judy: Judy Mackenzie, MBA, CHRP, CEC PCC, owns and operates TEVO Consulting Inc. (www.tevosmallbiz.com), providing services and guidance to small and medium businesses. TEVO’s mission is to assist companies in reaching their strategic goals by developing leadership and people management systems that allow employees to be at their best. Judy believes engaged employees are fundamental to business success, and she designs support and management systems to help people and companies achieve their full potential.

 



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