Breadwinner Wives

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For centuries men were expected to be the main providers or breadwinners for their families.  As times have changed, women have established themselves in the working world alongside their male counterparts.  But what about responsibilities at home?  Working women, even those working full-time careers were often still viewed as a ‘second wage earner’ not as the primary breadwinner for the family.  They maintained nearly the same level of responsibility in childcare and household tasks as their ancestral female forebears while also holding down full-time careers.  Times are changing yet again.  Women are now more likely to seek a masters degree than their male counterparts. Women have steadily outpaced men in earning higher degrees since the late 1990′s.

There has been a slow but steady societal shift in which women are taking over as the primary breadwinner and handing off more of the domestic tasks to their significant others.  According to the most recent census, one in five stay-at-home parents is a man.  More women are reporting that they share equally household chores such as cleaning, laundry and cooking than in previous decades.  In a rising number of cases, the husbands are shouldering more of the chores then their wives.  Childcare is the one area where women still tend to take on more than their husband.

Does that mean that a woman who earns more has more power?  Not necessarily.  A majority of breadwinner wives surveyed report that they share power equally with their spouses.   A similar majority report that they are very happy in their marriages, whether they had children or not made little difference in that number.



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Make Your Positive Attitude Contagious

 

Are you projecting the attitude you think you are?

If life has a tendency to overwhelm and fill you with negative feelings, practice projecting a positive attitude. A change in attitude can lead to many positive changes in your life. Practicing a positive attitude can have a quick and important impact on self-esteem, self-confidence and general wellbeing. People will mirror the presence you project. It is not a coincidence that when you are having a good day, everyone else seems to also be having a good day.

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Be very aware of your body and your facial expression.

 

I could say just smile but it is more than that. Our body language tells the whole story of how we are feeling. Did you know that we convey 75% of any message we want to send by body language alone. If you find yourself caught up in some negative self-talk, think about the message you are inadvertently projecting.

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Laugh at yourself. Look for the humour in situations.

Laugh often. Laughter has a positive effect on you and those around you, while relieving your body of stress. We program ourselves to find events frustrating, anger producing or just plain irritating. It will take some practice but if you can “re-program” yourself to look at these offensive times through a different lens, you will be amazed how much simpler life becomes.

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Watch your internal dialogue.

Anytime you think something negative, write down the thought and turn it into a positive statement. Retrain your brain to think positively. When you realize you have just beaten yourself up, it is important to understand the root of the issue. Writing down your abusive thoughts will show patterns and clues as to how to proceed. Remember that thoughts become beliefs and then actions, so manage your thought process with your happiness in mind.

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Spend time with positive people.

Negative people are always recruiting for other negative people. This might mean you have to cut people out of your life, or minimize the amount of time you spend with them. Negativity is as contagious as being positive. Be aware of those around you who try to sell their negative attitude as “being realistic”.  That is their story not yours.

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Take time to smell the roses, or if you have allergies, smell the coffee.

Be gentle with people. You can be hard on issues but gentle on people and make a huge difference to you and those around you. Be curious about people, rather than judgmental. We all have a story to tell.  You will find that once you slow down (just for that brief moment) and discover something to enjoy, your body will relax and clarity will follow. It is hard to be tense when you think about the little girl you saw going to daycare with her squirrel rubber boots on.

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Accentuate the positive in others.

The work starts with you, and as you work on developing your positive attitude, you can help others see their strengths. Help others attain a healthier, positive outlook. Be a role model for change and enjoy how people respond.



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Live Your Legend and Live Big

I have been following a young guy by the name of Scott Dinsmore for some time now. Actually it has been about a year but it feels longer. You know when someone strikes such a strong cord with you, you feel like you have known them a long time. That is my relationship with Scott Dinsmore.

In my researching of new products that compliment the business coaching and  planning niche that I love so much.  I was looking for a product or professional to go deeper into the “Mindset” area. I  feel so strongly about the value of “head-space” or mindset, what ever you want to call it. If you don’t have your head in the game, it just won’t work out so well.  As a recovering HR Executive I heard so many people  talk about “hating”their job and my response always was – Find one you like then.  That seemed like such a foreign concept to so many, which surprised me then and baffles me now. Information as never been easier to get and opportunities abound, but you have to want it.  Some people have that desire deeply embedded in their DNA, like Steve Jobs, Richard Branson and maybe Martha Stewart, but others need a thinking partner to bring out the best you have to offer.

Back to Scott Dinsmore.   He has a program that I thought might be a great addition to my work, so I bought it.  Wow is all I can say.  I have become an affiliate of his and I hope to actually do some work with him in the not so distant future. I can see how his work will be a great addition to my TEVO Small Biz Boot-camp series of programs. What I love about his work is the non nonsense type of advise he gives. He is a young guy with a wide open spirit. He is accountable to himself and his family and he holds himself fully capable. There I have put all my coaching jangle in one sentence, but I get jazzed reading this guy.

If you are thinking of doing something different, but are afraid, (no judgement intended here but often we are afraid to make a giant change because of fear of failure, fear of disappointing others around us and fear of the unknown) or if you want to take what you are doing and make it bigger, this is a great program for you. I couldn’t have done it better myself. I am happy to share the link for his program and I am sure you will not be disappointed.  You can find his program Click Here!.

 

Enjoy

Judy



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Top 10 Social-Networking Websites and Forums

According to the Warrior Forum (which is a really cool place to get good information about marketing and on line marketing) the following top 10 social media are worth watching. I know the material is based on a US sample but Canadians are not that much different in the social marketing arena. I just thought you would find this

Are you capitalizing on social media for your business?

No surprises here, for now.



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Outsourcing Advice From Freelancer.com’s Matt Barne

Outsourcing Advice from Freelancer.com's Matt Barrie
Posted on May 9, 2012 by Emily Suess
Posted in CollaborationInterviews

On the Small Business Bonfire social network, members have been chatting about their experiences with crowdsourcing and outsourcing work. The general consensus is that handing over work to someone else will either be a really good or a really bad experience — but rarely do small business owners feel indifferent about their experiences.

So the goal for entrepreneurs is to figure out what shapes the collaborative experience and use that knowledge to increase the odds that the crowdsourcing experience will be overwhelmingly positive for both parties.

To help us figure it all out Matt Barrie, Chief Executive at Freelancer.com, has agreed to answer a few basic questions.

MB: Crowdsourcing, simply put, is pitching your problem out there and having groups of people propose solutions. It creates a competitive social interaction between diverse sets of crowd who you would probably overlook, simply because they are not the usual people you run to.

This does not mean, however, that they do not possess the skills needed to resolve your problems — it’s just that the whole system reinforces the idea that expertise is limited to the “experts” is broken down. It encourages everyone who has a great idea to step up and eventually stand out.

MB: You have to trust the right people and communicate regularly with them to achieve the results you want. Freelancer.com gives small business owners peace of mind … Milestone payments ensure the entrepreneur never has to pay for work that doesn’t suit his requirements and that freelancers also get what is due them for the work they accomplish.

MB: …The small business owner can always check the reputation of the freelancer he or she is planning to hire. Entrepreneurs should not always go for the people who bid the cheapest — instead, they should check the quality of the freelancers’ [past] work. Cheapest is not always best.

MB: Alexander Seinfeld, a writer and ordained rabbi who used Freelancer.com’s services, once shared this:

“I have a published Android app, and it would not have been possible within this budget or time frame without freelancer.com. I’m grateful for this amazing service, which has made this and other projects possible. I hope that my experience will help others be successful and avoid some of my stumbles. Freelancer.com helps you, but you still must do your due diligence.”

You can see the Android app he’s talking about here.



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5 Key Resources for Women Entrepreneurs

Posted on Apr 23, 2012 by Emily Suess
Posted in Business DevelopmentStarting a Small Business

There is no denying that women-owned businesses significantly impact the U.S. economy. In fact, according to the Economics and Statistics Administration of the United States Department of Commerce, just five years ago 7.8 million businesses were women-owned, and those businesses brought in a staggering $1.2 trillion in sales receipts. As if that’s not impressive enough, just consider that women-owned business employed 7.6 million workers in the U.S. at a time when jobs were seriously hard to come by.

Women-owned businesses are a huge part of the U.S. economy, and because of that it’s in every citizen’s interest to see them succeed. To that end, I’ve compiled a list of resources for women business owners covering a range of government, private, and non-profit organizations.

The NAWBO professional group was originally found in 1975 and presents itself as “the unified voice of America’s more than 10 million women-owned business.” It’s a dues-based association that represents women’s interests in all industries. The group maintains more than 7,000 members and supports 70 different chapters across the United States.

The WLE is a social organization for women entrepreneurs. It was founded by businesswomen, and it works to help women “fill in the information gap” and “provide a venue for building connections that will facilitate their success in business and in life.” The organization provides a multitude of resources including conferences, business coaching, interactive programming, teleconference and a leadership development program.

The Women’s Business Enterprise National Council started in 1997. It certifies businesses owned, controlled, and operation by women in the U.S. The organization serves as an “advocate of women-owned businesses as suppliers to America’s corporations.” It accomplishes this by acting as a liaison for corporate member that run a Supplier Diversity program and women-owned businesses.

Also founded in 1997, the WomanOwned.com site serves more than 3.5 million women entrepreneurs across the globe. The site, founded by entrepreneur Christina Blenk, offers assistance in online business information and networking to help women get their hands on the resources they need to launch, run, and grow their businesses. The site includes a searchable database of women business owners from all industries in just about every country in the world.

The Office of Women’s Business Ownership was established in 1979 and is part of the federal government’s Small Business Administration (SBA). It oversees Women’s Business Centers (WBCs) throughout the U.S. which provide assistance to women entrepreneurs who are “economically or socially disadvantaged” by offering training and counseling to women business owners. Resources include the Gateway for Women-Owned Businesses Selling to the Government and a comprehensive business directory.

In order to succeed, any business owner must maintain ties with her customers, her community, and supportive organizations that provide invaluable resources from launch to expansion. Hopefully, these resources will give you a starting point for achieving your dreams as a business owner. For more resources for women business owners, read: 47 Online Resources for Women Small Business Owners.



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11 Steps to Insane Focus: Do More of What Matters


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Power of Focus

“One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular. ” -Tony Robbins

Written by Scott Dinsmore

This morning I woke up, brewed some Yerba Mate, caught a glorious rooftop sunrise and proceeded to get more done before breakfast than I had in the past 4 working days combined.

How about you? How many important things did you get done last week? I mean the things that actually got you closer to your biggest goals and dreams.

Take a minute to think about it and write a couple down. How many did you come up with?

For many the answer is few if any at all. Why?

In a word: Distraction.

Lack of focus is the most common killer of making things happen.

In the last 10+ years there’s been an unconscious shift from encouraging focus to condemning it. It’s happening without us knowing and we’re all likely victims. As soon as multitasking became possible and encouraged, our focus died.

Mine certainly did.

We have to fight our very best fight to get it back.

Leo Babauta is leading the charge with his latest book, Focus which is more than worth the read. I hit up a sweet barefoot run with Leo last week where he filled me in on some of the good stuff. Unbelievably powerful.

Without focus we are headed for disaster and the consequences are as dangerous as they come.

What’s the biggest risk of losing our focus? Wasting our time and living a meaningless life.

The solution is to simplify. Get back to the basics of doing the important.

Here’s a brief 11-step guide to reclaiming insane Focus.

1. Know what actually matters. Be honest with yourself about the actions that truly move the needle in your business and your life. An 80/20 analysis is a great place to start. If you’re stuck, just think of the tasks you fear the most–that give you anxiety just to think about. Those are likely the most important.

2. Pick your top 2-3 core tasks each day. These are the things that must happen no matter what. If you get these done your day is a success. Stick to no more than three, or better yet one. They must move you closer to your big goals. Checking email does not count.

3. Do them first thing. For me writing is one of my core actions, so I write for an hour or so as soon as I roll out of bed or after my morning workout (it’s 5:45 am right now). The longer you wait, the more distractions will intrude. Nothing happens before these get done.

4. Do not connect to anything until your core tasks are done. Don’t convince yourself you need the internet or email to do your most important tasks. 95% of the time you don’t. Leave the internet off and phone on airplane mode until you crush through the important.

5. Kill multitasking. Stop thinking it’s more efficient. It’s not. No surfing during phone calls, reading during meals, chatting while writing. Do one thing at a time. Simple. Not only is multitasking terribly inefficient but it stresses you out and it’s rude to anyone around you.

6. Turn off email and notifications (and anything else that interrupts you). When you sit down to do something, nothing else gets attention. Just because someone decides

to email, chat or call you, doesn’t mean it’s more important. Those things can wait. But if you know they are waiting there, you’ll be too tempted. Avoid temptation at all cost. We are too weak. I don’t trust myself with email on my iPhone so I totally removed it.

7. Don’t check email in the morning. This is the most effective (and difficult) single practice I’ve found. I know every one of you have heard this one. So why doesn’t anyone actually do it? It will change your life. It feels terrible to know we’ve spent a couple hours refreshing and going in and out of email without really getting anything done. I assure you that if you check it, you won’t be able to help yourself, and you’ll stumble face first into the worm hole. So don’t even open it until you have a few hours of focused action under your belt (this is at least 11am for most).

8. Batch your emailing to two times a day MAX. Maybe 30 min before lunch and 30 min late afternoon. If you need an email for your core task, do not go to your inbox. Go straight to the search feature and find it. If you need to write an email as a core task (which should very rarely be the case), write it offline in a simple program like notepad. Save reactionary items for after you get the important done.

9. Try to get less done in a day–practice Slow Working. Don’t fill every moment of your calendar with tasks (this is a huge one I’m working on). You’ll be stressed and rushed the whole day. Slow down and move through your core tasks calmly. Then maybe you do a few more things with the remaining time but don’t cram them in. If you do, you’ll always feel behind.

10. Plan more time for each task. This is the easiest way to alleviate the schedule. And things always tend to take longer than we think. If your core task will take you 45 minutes, then block out 90. Actually schedule it on your calendar. If it only takes you 40 minutes then suddenly you have free time–how freakinawesome (and rare) is that!

11. Take breaks and reward yourself. Most of us can only intensely focus on something for an hour at best. Take at least a few-minute break every 30 or 60 minutes to clear your head. I love going up to my rooftop for a couple deep breaths and a view of the Golden Gate. Find a fun way to get you free and clear. Take a walk, meditate, feed the ducks, breathe, get a snack or some water or listen to an inspiring song. You pick.

Do the above and your day will be a victory before most people wake up.

It’s a pretty awesome feeling. You’ll get way more done than you planned but your mind and schedule will also be clear to enjoy life a little more. Few things feel worse than an unproductive day. Nail your big things early and use that energy to take the rest of the day by storm. Take a walk with your wife, play with your kids, go down to the beach and read. Do whatever you want. That’s the point.

Enjoy having nothing to do.

When was the last time you had nothing to do? Many of us can’t remember. It’s because we set our days up for failure. With more tasks than we could ever accomplish and loads of wasted time in between. Filling every second of your day will do this. With the above, you’ll suddenly have time to spend in your own way. That’s when your mind really starts to have some fun. The big ideas will begin to show up.

We are addicted to wasting time.

Realize that mindless work is an addiction. It’s just as dangerous as smoking or alcolhol. I’m not kidding. Email, Facebook, twitter, texting, surfing, news–it’s all a deadly serious addiction. We just think it’s ok because everyone else around us is wasting their life on it. If everyone started smoking tomorrow would you start? That’s what I thought.

The path to freedom can be difficult to see, mostly because the world is telling you it’s not there. A path begins by walking. These addictions have caused us to lose our way and most importantly, lose our focus. We avoid the present. We avoid what matters. And we avoid what’s right in front of us. Be it a sunset, your husband or that client call you’ve been putting off.

With pure focus we can be unstoppable.

You’ll get more done in a day than most get done in a week, with time left over to savor the subtleties of life you forgot you enjoyed so much.

When in doubt, ask yourself “Am I wasting my time to avoid the important?” Be honest. You’ll know the answer. Do something about it.

 

 

 

 




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What I Stand For

In my past life I was an Art Therapist. I worked with kids to express their worries, fears and anxieties through the use of art. It was great work. I did this because I am a totally visual person. When I am learning something  new, I have to get a picture/visual in my mind to fully understand the concept and the application. I am a very practical learner and I have found that I am not alone. We are looking to learn stuff that makes our world a bit better but we don’t want to spend too much time doing it. I get that.

This is the way I have approached my coaching and consulting practice. I know the theory but what my clients want is “how does this work”. So with that in mind I will be making a series of audio and videos in the spirit of making your learning relevant and practical. You will be able to  take the information I give you and apply it right away. I am not suggesting you will have mastery right off the bat but you will be able to try something different which will then have a different impact. Remember the saying” You can’t solve a the problem with the same thinking that created it”. BINGO  Often the changes are so subtle, they get overlooked but the devil is in the details.

Let me show you my words and I hope you will join me by signing up for business made relevant topics.

 



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GPS For Success

Goals and Proven Strategies from Industry's Leading Experts

I have had the distinct honour of writing a chapter in a book with Stephen CoveyJohn Gray and Les Brown. GPS For Success  is about achieving your goals and dreams. You can order a book from me directly, as I have master card and visa capabilities. This is a start to a whole new chapter in my life.

GPS for Success has 16 chapters packed with nuggets of experience and wisdom. I love the variety of the authors both in experience and professionalism is  about setting goals and milestones for success. If you are looking to kickstart, restart or simply set yourself on fire to achieve something you have always wanted to do but it felt too daunting, this is the resource for you.

Workshops and speaking engagements can be arranged directly through the linked in site.

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About Judy: Judy Mackenzie, MBA, CHRP, CEC PCC, owns and operates TEVO Consulting Inc. (www.tevosmallbiz.com), providing services and guidance to small and medium businesses. TEVO’s mission is to assist companies in reaching their strategic goals by developing leadership and people management systems that allow employees to be at their best. Judy believes engaged employees are fundamental to business success, and she designs support and management systems to help people and companies achieve their full potential.



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Confessions of an Information Junkie

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OMG.  I got an iPad for Christmas which seemed like a great idea. I could cart this thing with me all over the place and when I checked my calendar, I could actually see it, For my generation smaller is not better for all things.  Anyway, back to the topic. I then downloaded lots of apps to make sure that I could make good use of my new tool/toy.  I spent more time of Face book because sometimes I had nothing else to do , as I am not much of a gamer. I was able to keep current on my relatives children and my friends misadventures while on holidays and stay current with all the cute “You Tube “animal videos. I also downloaded a  number of free books for Kindle, Koodo and whatever, as I liked the prices for some of the books I thought I might get to.

I never really believed for a split second that I would actually read a whole book without feeling the luxurious touch of paper on my hands and the ability to highlight areas ( I am one of those people who desecrated their books by writing in them)However, I  am committed to change and being current so I continued on with my acquisition of e books. (The fact that I had moved the summer before and we moved 100 boxes of books and that was after the great cull, had me very interested in a more lightweight library)

So finally it happened. I wanted to do some research for an upcoming article I am going to write and I downloaded a couple of books (who can resist $2.99 for a whole book, even though I can’t really touch it?)and I started my work. I have been sitting here for 2 hours now and I have been able to tap on links within the content of the book that gets me into one interesting subject after another. I have notes like crazy and I am so excited I don’t think I will be able to sleep. I love this being able to go to wild places in cyberspace that lets me know more than I ever thought of. I am in information junkie heaven

The downside is I have only made it to page 15. It is now 11:40pm and I don’t see stopping any time soon. I am happy in my little cyberbook haven but I think my head might explode. So a word of caution for all of you who suffer from the same information addiction I do. Beware,  when you buy an e-book as it is a slippery slope my friend. I felt I owed it to you to share.

I am off to another link. Good night..

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About Judy: Judy Mackenzie, MBA, CHRP, CEC PCC, owns and operates TEVO Consulting Inc. (www.tevosmallbiz.com), providing services and guidance to small and medium businesses. TEVO’s mission is to assist companies in reaching their strategic goals by developing leadership and people management systems that allow employees to be at their best. Judy believes engaged employees are fundamental to business success, and she designs support and management systems to help people and companies achieve their full potential.



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