This blog is for all people who set goals, only to let them fall by the wayside within a very short period. Of course, you know that this part only makes you feel unhappy, unmotivated, and like a downright failure. There are a number of reasons why you aren’t able to reach your goals and the largest part is in how you set these things up in the first place. That is why I am going to share some “goal hacking” ideas with you.
1. Start with the end in mind. What do you want to accomplish and why do you want to do this? Are you doing it for yourself or for someone else? Are you trying to lose weight, quit smoking, work out, or a host of other goals for someone else, because you think it will make them happy? You know that sets you up for failure after the initial enthusiasm wears off.
I don’t think there is anyone who hasn’t tried to make a major change because it would please someone else. After a very short while this becomes a burden and you get resentful, not only about that thing you are trying to change, as well as you will also get resentful of the person. The story that we create in these situations makes us feel righteously justified in our choice to abandon the goals we had set, as well as getting really angry with the lack of acceptance we feel. Our minds and egos are very crafty when it comes to protecting these kinds of changes. Now this goal becomes a major issue in your relationship. OMG, it just gets worse from there. I am speaking from experience as I was a smoker in my foolish youth. It took a personal experience that finally helped me through this addiction, with no casualties, after many failed attempts to quit.
Let me tell you the difference between motivation and inspiration.
Motivation is an external force that pushes, kicks and forces you to get things done. These are the projects that we are required to do for work or home. They have deadlines, and consequences attached to them. You have heard people say they work best under pressure or at the last minute, as the deadline draws near. Those people are motivated by external pressures and that usually is because of a punishment. Motivation is a stress based response in these situations. It will exhaust you over time.
Inspiration, is internally driven. It is the passion or the fire that drives you to accomplish huge things. How does an Olympic athlete maintain their focus through years of training? How does anyone who accomplishes amazing things stay motivated? They do it because they are internally charged to accomplish their goal, and they do not let go of their vision until they achieve their goal. Sports coaches were the first to use visualization of achieving goals to great success. Listen to Olympic athletes talk about their gold medal performances and you will hear a step by step walk through their performance in their head just before their activity. They can see it, feel it and believe in it.
So, start with the picture of the outcome, the thinner, the smoke free, the fitter you and when you can do that, you are starting off great.
Break down this goal into little micro goals.
Let’s go with the diet example as, most of us can relate to that at some point in our life.
2. Lose 10 pounds in 2 months. (Make sure you have measures for your goals, right!) Visualize you with 10 pounds less on your frame.
Be Very Clear – imagine what success looks like and enjoy the image and the sensations you can create.
http://timshurr.com/brain-training-secrets-of-olympic-athletes. Check out what the visualization athletes use- it works.
3. Look at your current eating plan. Before you start, write down everything that goes in your mouth for a period of your choosing. Everything!! Every little thing that goes in your mouth. That is the first goal.I am not going to get prescriptive, as this as it is an example of goal hacking and not dieting.
4. Start to look at small changes you can do in your regular routine that will either reduce calories or increase calorie burning.
Can you see what I am doing here. I am breaking down the challenge into smaller steps that don’t feel overwhelming and can get you set to succeed.
Keep your goals
5. Make sure you can your milestones clearly laid out. If you miss one, don’t beat yourself up, but learn from the reason you miss it. Did your inner voice convince you the ice cream cone was necessary? Guilt is not the way to achieve goals, but honest respect for your desired accomplishments are a great way to meet your goals without undo hardship. (Like beating yourself up once again and name calling.)
6. Journal your progress. The written word is very powerful.” Use more ink” as I say and you will be surprised at what you come up.
7. Just like the tortoise and the hare story, slow and steady gets the job done every time. For some who cannot tolerate doing anything slow, find your own pace that you can work with.
8. Enjoy your successes. I mean really enjoy them. It is one thing to treat yourself, that is great, but also, go a little deeper and show you the respect that you deserve with your accomplishments. You have already burned through a number of issues and the diet is only one of them. You know what I mean.
9. Always reevaluate what you have done. You may need to turn the volume up or down on your goals. Learn the lessons and move on.
Taking small, steady steps is a sure way to “Goal Hack” your life, in whatever area you want. Your success rate will improve, your personal disappointment level will be at an all time low too, and that is the really great outcome of this whole exercise. Banish the word failure from your life – it is a word that strips you of your dignity in a heartbeat.
Everything is a learning and your time has come.